This is a term we see a lot of in the self development industry, and it is a bit of a conundrum. I say it is a conundrum because most of us have no idea who our true self is. From the minute we are born our programming starts. We are programmed by our parents and family, by our teachers, our coaches, our friends, our colleagues, by society, and by social media. And this programming is relentless, it never stops, it is evening happening without us being aware of it.
I have been told I often offend people by the way I speak, I get to the point, call a spade a spade, not a digging instrument. My son is a lot like me, and his mother has said he must change, be more accommodating to others. He asked me why he must change, why can’t others change, and just accept him the way he is. I had to explain to him that unfortunately in the world we currently live in there are a lot more sensitive people than pragmatic people. But his question is very valid. Why can’t we all just get along, stop taking everything so personally. And who decides what is acceptable and what isn’t, how large must the group of people be in order to decide these things? I ask this because in recent times the minority groups seem to have a lot more say than the majority, and the majority allow this.
So how do we figure out who our true self is, if we want to? And if we obey the laws of nature we are meant to grow, physically, mentally and emotionally, so our true self evolves, or does it? Does who we are at our core evolve? I’m not sure it does, I believe who we are as humans evolves. This reminds of the movie Rise of the Guardians, in the movie Jack Frost needs to find out who he is at his core.
So how can we be true to ourselves, and be our true self? I honestly don’t know, and I don’t think anyone does. Every single human being is unique, we should celebrate our uniqueness, learn to love ourselves, accept ourselves, then maybe we will be able to love others, accept others.